For years I've shared my stories about my trauma and challenges. And how I did the inner work to heal, change my mindset, and Change my ways. Over the last 8 weeks or so, I've been feeling that something isn't quite right… Something wasn't lining up. I struggled with this - Knowing I needed to change something. But I've been writing about what I know, Something I was familiar with writing about, Something I felt I was pretty good at writing about, Something I believe could really help people....
almost 2 years ago • 1 min read
You never know what’s going to happen in life. If you aren’t being true to yourself, you may lose yourself entirely. You have no idea how far-reaching the consequences will be as they ripple out around you. Here’s my story: (First, I just want to say that I’ve processed and healed this. All is well with me. This story happened in 2010. And I'm going to tell you the bright side of how this contributed to transforming me and my life.) Photo by Patrick Tomasso on Unsplash I got a call from our...
almost 2 years ago • 5 min read
I was told that as children we mold ourselves into who we need to be to gain the love and approval of one of our parents...maybe both of them. And I felt the truth of that. Photo by Sharon Waldron on Unsplash I discovered that I became a high achiever for my Dad because that’s what he praised me for. Me getting straight A’s in school was very important to him, and I usually got them. But it put me on this path of striving in order to be appreciated. My Mom introduced me to art at a young age....
almost 2 years ago • 6 min read
Driven by an innate desire to provide a better life for my Son, than the poor upbringing I had, I became obsessed with learning everything about success. In those days, studying business and process improvement was my hobby, and I was a workaholic. Eventually, it was no longer just about providing for my Son. In just a few years he would be leaving the nest. This is a picture of my son, Austin, when we visited Peru in 2014. I wanted more luxuries, more travel, and I dreamed of having a horse....
almost 2 years ago • 4 min read
Parents, teachers, and caregivers all had ideas for who you needed to be and how you "should" behave. They had a lot of influence over what you did, and what you came to believe. You were lucky if they were supportive and understanding. But if you and I were in the same boat, well... we were just trying to stay afloat most of the time because Growing up was confusing. You were so curious about why everything was the way it was yet you were told - “You ask too many questions!” But they made...
about 2 years ago • 3 min read
Some say, “If you spot it, you got it.” That can be really hard to believe when it comes to some behaviors, but if you’re willing to face it, it’s a clue for where you can grow. I see it as a reflection, like a mirror, and gaze into it. It’s scary. It can feel painful at first. I’ve found many things within myself that I never saw before. But I don’t stop there. I use it to transform. You can too. Here’s an example of my process called “The Sacred Pool.” It starts with the observable facts...
about 2 years ago • 3 min read
I just found another blind spot, and it's a doozy. I'm using a tried and true method to overcome it. Maybe you'll want to give it a try to overcome one of your repeating patterns too. Here's my story... Every relationship is a mirror, and if you have the courage to look, you'll see aspects of yourself that may scare you, maybe something you've never seen before. If you embrace it, then you can create a grander vision of yourself and your life, and change your reality. Here's what recently...
about 2 years ago • 6 min read